Self-Giving

“For people will love only themselves.” (2 Timothy 3:2 NLT)

When I read the above verse, the character of Joffrey Lannister from Game of Thrones came to mind. He was a young king who was known for his self-absorption. He was greedy, boastful, proud, disrespectful, demeaning, inconsiderate, cruel, reckless, impatient, impulsive, and immature. He was not likeable. When he died, people celebrated.

Fictional characters are easier to dislike than real-life people. Our current culture makes selfishness less obvious because it is hidden behind facades of self-love. We are taught to prioritize ourselves and our desires over everything and everyone else. Self-absorbed people can be superficially fun, but you can’t count on them when you need them. In every relationship, they will take more than they give. Other than devoted members of their family, most others will learn to keep their distance. They do not have too many loyal friends. Selfish individuals are often bewildered when they are not constantly admired and prioritized.

When does self-love morph into selfishness? When you prioritize external validation over compassion, when you exploit others in order to get what you want, when you are unempathetic about the pain you are causing others--you become the narcissistic villain in the story of life.

Virtuous people always remain attractive. They are self-giving, altruistic, humble, reverent, honorable, grateful, loving, forgiving, encouraging, disciplined, kind, loyal, prudent, and devoted. Their relationships are not utilitarian or transactional--not based on what others can do for them or how others make them feel. Instead, they love unconditionally and pour themselves out for the benefit of others. They are self-giving. People want to be around virtuous individuals because of their admirable qualities. They are drawn to their goodness, their spiritual maturity, and their higher purpose.

Lord, make me self-giving. Teach me to be virtuous. Help me be like Christ.