Silent Grieving

“He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.” (2 Corinthians 1:4 NLT)

The holidays can be a sad time for those who have lost loved ones through death, estrangement, distance, abandonment, divorce, disagreements, etc. It can also be difficult for those who are alone, sick, poor, or disabled. There are so many people around us who are struggling in different ways.

Around this time of year--there are tons of volunteer opportunities at local shelters, food pantries, and nursing homes. For some of us, serving others in a group setting at these organized events can be useful. It may help distract us from our own loneliness and neediness. But for some, the noise, decorations, and crowds can be triggering. If that is the case, it may be better to find ways to serve people one-on-one.

All around us, there are people who are silently grieving. They try to go about the holidays as if they are okay. They try to put up a good front--so as not to ruin the season for others. They go to parties, decorate their homes, bake cookies, shop for gifts, laugh, sing carols, and join in all the traditional festivities. But in their private moments, they cry.

Look around for those who are suffering silently. Ask God how you can comfort them during this holiday season.

Perhaps there is someone you know who could use a home-cooked meal, a phone call, some help with household chores, a hand-written card, some groceries, a warm coat, help paying their heating bill, etc. Focusing on the needs of others can take your mind off your own pain. It is a better distraction than self-indulgence.

Helping others makes me realize how blessed I am. I may not have much, but God has given me health, awareness, and compassion. And just as God comforts me, I can comfort others.