Where Are You Going?
“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” (Philippians 2:3-4 NLT)
I was in my early thirties when I first read The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. I still remember how the first sentence caught my attention: “It’s not about you.” This was a different message than what I was used to. All the ads I saw told me that my happiness was of supreme importance, and it was my responsibility to do everything in my power to put myself first. I read the book slowly, taking copious notes. I wrote down my thoughts about each chapter. It changed my perspective on personal fulfillment, meaning, and purpose. I wish I could say it displaced my self-centeredness. It did not. However, it made me realize that I could not find satisfaction in life if I continued on the path that I was on.
The illusion of self-love is mesmerizing. It is like climbing a mountain just to prove you are strong and fit--and show off your accomplishments on social media. Have you ever asked yourself: Where am I going? What’s on top of the mountain I am climbing? What is my purpose? Is there more to life than novel experiences and seeking validation? Asking yourself these questions can lead to disappointment and discouragement.
“Discouragement is disillusioned self-love.” (Oswald Chambers)
Once the illusion of self-love is shattered, a profound sense of panic sets in. Our sense of self is tethered on externals--not in examining our conscience too closely. In our hastiness to accept ourselves, we become addicted to whatever makes us feel good at the moment, even if they are delusions. But Jesus teaches us to look out for others, to be selfless, humble, compassionate, and considerate. As followers of Christ, we are to fix our eyes on things above, which means that our focus is not on the climb but on Who is waiting at the summit. We are not just exerting ourselves for exercise or to prove that we are capable. We are learning to trust and depend on the Lord, to be God-centered. This is our purpose.